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How long have you been a mother? What motherhood life lessons have you learned so far? Care to share them in the comment section below?
Motherhood has been one tough act to follow. The learning experience is endless. It is never black and white. It is a lifetime of second-guessing and not knowing.
Books about motherhood are aplenty, but they only serve as guides. We always learn the hard way.
I am a novice mother. Yes, you read that right. I gave birth to my firstborn over 34 months ago and had my secondborn 18 months after that.
However, motherhood is so complex that even a seasoned mom can’t quite master it.
If only it was that easy…
[Motherhood is] the biggest gamble in the world. It is the glorious life force. It’s huge and scary—it’s an act of infinite optimism.
~ Gilda Radner
Clear-cut Motherhood Life Lessons I Learned in my First 3 Years as a Mom
In my motherhood journey, I have learned a handful of life lessons that I believe you, as a mom, must know as well.
So I compiled the most straightforward motherhood life lessons I learned to share with all of the novice mothers (or even the more experienced ones) out there.
Here are some lessons for mom in no particular order:
1. Spend quality time with your kids.
Mothers are the busiest, most hardworking people on earth, but even when our daily schedule gets too hectic, we must and should never forget to spend quality time with our kids.
Juggling a full-time job, beautiful children, a loving partner, household chores, friendships, and other social interactions is never easy. However, if all mothers were to have those as excuses, then no kids would have lived as happy and cheerful right now.
So, no matter how busy you get, spend quality time with your kids. After all, our kids (and ourselves) are only young once! Let us seize every moment we spend with them.
2. Hugs and kisses are essential.
When we spend quality time with our kids, it is just expected hugs and kisses follow. Hugs and kisses are vital for our kids’ health and well-being.
According to an article I read on CNN way back in 1997, “Well-hugged babies make less-stressed adults”. Researchers at Emory University in Atlanta and McGill University in Montreal were mentioned and these researchers believe that the “development of babies is controlled by more than genetics — that it’s both nature and nurture.”
As mothers, we have indubitably witnessed these in our kids. The smiles, the giggles, the laughter, and the happiness they exude are just evidence of how a simple hug and a little kiss can work wonders in our kids’ day-to-day lives.
So, don’t miss out on those benefits. Cuddle away! Because quite honestly, there will be days when we need it more than they do!
3. Remember that your kids are also human.
There was a cornucopia of motherhood life lessons when I got pregnant with my firstborn. I have been given a lot of advice (even unsolicited). Some came from people I look up to and even love, and some were from total strangers who didn’t know anything about me or my story. I made sure to listen, but all those pieces of advice did not shake or move me.
A few months later I came across an adage on Twitter and it just struck me to the core.
It was one from Rebecca Eanes. It said, “So often, children are punished for being human. They are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes. Yet, we adults have them all the time. None of us are perfect. We must stop holding our children to a higher standard of perfection than we can attain ourselves.”
It, without a shred of doubt, hit me. There is nothing more real than that statement. Now, every time I get upset about my toddlers’ behavior, I come back to that quote and it helps me calm down.
4. Don’t be scared to ask for help.
I used to have a strong conviction that if someone truly wanted to help, they will do so without your asking.
Admittedly, I still do believe in that statement, though with reservation since (unfortunately) it doesn’t work that way for some. Some people are reluctant to help because they don’t want to “step on your toes”. They are scared of being labeled as meddlers rather than serious aid providers.
For that reason, I suggest you ask. There is nothing wrong with asking, don’t you think? It won’t make you less of a person if you do. The plain old “please” does magic.
5. Take care of yourself.
When you get sick or when something ever happens to you, your loved ones will suffer. If you love your family (especially your kids), take care of yourself.
No one will ever take better care of your children than you, so don’t burn yourself out.
Try to build the right relationships to create a solid support system.
Make time for yourself, read a good book, get enough sleep, drink lots of fluids, try to eat right, think happy thoughts, remind yourself that you are beautiful, and never forget to pray.
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6. Nobody’s perfect.
I struggled to make everything perfect for my kids and my husband. I am my own worst critic, so I sometimes question my capabilities whenever something frustrating happens.
Then I realized nobody will ever be perfect. There will always be times when it feels like we’ve failed.
A piece of advice: Constantly strive to better yourself for your kids’ sake and everything will be okay.
At the end of the day, what matters is your children’s happiness, health, and well-being.
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7. Forgive yourself.
This is related to number 6.
Nobody is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. We are only sentient beings who will sin and sin again no matter how hard we try, but that doesn’t mean we don’t do our best. We get exhausted and overwhelmed at times. It is never easy! We sometimes curse at the top of our lungs as a result of it.
So, please forgive yourself. If not, at the very least learn to.
8. Respect other mothers’ opinions.
More experienced mothers will always have to say their piece. You are not required to follow them, but you should try to listen. Respect their opinions. Don’t just shut them down. Motherhood is not a one-size-fits-all kind of thing.
However different our battles may be, they are mothers as well. We must be lifting each other, not pulling each other down.
9. Smile even when life gets too hard!
Nobody ever said motherhood was easy. Life is designed that way. Some days will be dark, while other days will be light. Just remember to smile.
Inspirational Quotes About Motherhood for Encouragement
We all need a little pat on the back sometimes, so here are a few reassuring quotes that can help you keep going on days you feel like failing as a mom:
- “Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” — Barbara Kingsolver
- “A mother’s love endures through all.” — Washington Irving
- “Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.” — Erich Fromm
My Final Thoughts on Motherhood and the Life Lessons that come with it
Motherhood is a fulfilling job! Though grueling and terrifying at times, it is a beautiful thing.
There will be days when you’re tired and overwhelmed, and you just want to give up. That’s normal. We all feel that way sometimes.
Just continue to teach your children right from wrong, support them when they are sick, help them with their struggles, and love them no matter what.
Motherhood is selflessness, strength, confidence, responsibility, and so much more personified… It is the most remarkable gift you will ever receive from above.
Keep doing what you do best, my friend.
You got this! Hang in there. You are not alone!
Talk to you soon,
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These are such great tips, pinned to share with other mamas!
Awww! Thank you, Alex! Really appreciate it. The word must be known. Other mamas should know there’s a huge village experiencing the very same thing she is experiencing.
Love these tips on Motherhood lessons you learned the hard way! Take care of yourself is my favorite! Thanks for sharing
You’re welcome, Tam! Thank you for stopping by!
This is so true! I recently became a mother about 8 months ago. It’s so important to take care of yourself and to remember that you’re not perfect!
You are so right, Cynthia. It took a lot of meditating but in the end it was worth it. No one is perfect. Mothers like us are humans too. Motherhood teaches us a lot of things, that’s for sure.
Great post.
So encouraging to new moms! I wish I had some reassuring articles like this when I first became a mama.
Thank you so much, Wendy! These motherhood life lessons I compiled are suitable for all first-time moms, that’s for sure. As a new mom, it is always good to know that everything is just normal.