I wish I had the survival guide to manage the brutal first weeks with a newborn when I had my first child. Yes, I spent most of my waking hours researching about fetal development, pregnancy, labor and delivery, and I even signed up to practically every pregnancy website I stumbled upon. However, nothing is as helpful when you talk to people that have done motherhood firsthand. Motherhood is hard and it is even harder when you’re doing it for the first time.
You do all you can to perfect everything for your children’s sake. In spite your best efforts, you still fail. That is because no one is ever perfect. Not you. Not me. Not anyone. As moms, we love our children more than anything (even more than we love ourselves). We will do everything to keep them healthy and happy. However, we are only human (Though we think that we are superwomen at times!) and we make mistakes. Those mistakes don’t make us less of the striving parents that we are.
We always hear from our doctors that a fever is not a bad thing. It is just one sign that tells us the body is “waging a war against infection”. That doesn’t make it any better at all. As mothers, that statement always fails to give us comfort. Thus, I put together an article that tells us everything we need to know about it.
On my dad’s side of the family, we have a tradition. Growing up, I told myself that I would diligently follow that tradition to make the elders in my family happy. As soon as I knew I was pregnant, I immediately tracked the last letter used for naming the family’s newborn babies.
Just the other day, I got to talk to one of my best friends from across the country. He mentioned about how it was so hard to maintain a household, so he was really amazed at how someone like me with two toddlers under 3 could still write, manage a business, work full-time in a hospital setting, and still function on my regular days. I just chuckled and told him, “I guess everything they say about mothers is true! They most definitely can handle everything no matter what!” That statement from him may be nothing special as every mother encounters it on a daily basis, but that very statement sparked a desire in me. A desire to bravely ask one of the most, if not the most, encouraging mom blogger I know out there for an interview.
I am a novice mother. I gave birth to my first born over 34 months ago and had my second born 18 months after that. Motherhood has been one tough act to follow. The learning experience is endless. It is never black and white. It is a lifetime of second-guessing and not knowing. Books about motherhood are plentiful, but they only serve as guides. We always learn the hard way. Here is a compilation of 9 clear-cut life lessons I have learned in my first 3 years as a mother. I am sharing it to all of the novice mothers (or even the more experienced ones) out there.