First Weeks with A Newborn (What to Expect)

Inside: Learn about common issues you may face in the first few weeks with your newborn, as well as expert advice from seasoned mothers to help you get through them all!

I wish there had been a survival guide to manage the brutal first weeks with a newborn when I had my first child.

Yes, I spent most of my waking hours researching fetal development, pregnancy, labor, and delivery, and I even signed up for practically every pregnancy website I stumbled upon.

However, nothing is as helpful as talking to people who have experienced motherhood firsthand.

Motherhood is hard. It’s even harder when you’re doing it for the first time.

“When we encourage new parents to ‘treasure these moments because they don’t last forever,’ we need to remember to also reassure them that they will survive these moments because they don’t last forever.”

~L.R. Knost

✔️ By the way, you’re probably not sleeping well anymore. I know it’s not easy carrying a baby in the tummy (I was there myself), and it gets uncomfortable, especially at bedtime. So, you would want to grab this pregnancy pillow to help with sleep. It sure was a lifesaver for me when I was pregnant. I am positive it will do wonders for you too.

As first-time moms, we tend to overthink everything leaving us all overwhelmed and drained day after day. I was that mom, and I still am at times.

So I decided to jot down every encounter I had to lessen the exhaustion that comes with the most fulfilling job ever—motherhood!

I also asked a few of my mommy friends to share some of their most impactful tips for surviving the first few weeks with a newborn. You can find all of them listed below.

Anyway, let’s go back to the newborn survival guide now.

First Few Weeks with Newborn Issues

A deeper dive into each newborn concern is also available below this list.

• Breastfeeding is not as easy as you think it is.
• A newborn communicates through crying.
• A newborn baby sleeps a lot.
• A newborn poops after practically every feeding.
• Expect a lot of sleepless nights.

Breastfeeding is not as easy as you think it is

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Breastfeeding may be a natural thing, but it takes time and practice for you and your newborn baby to get the hang of it.

No need to worry though, as experts like breastfeeding specialists and lactation consultants are always around to offer further support when it gets too overwhelming for the first-time mom.

The following are some of the breastfeeding concerns a lactating mom can encounter:

Not producing enough milk

Know that producing milk doesn’t happen right away. It took 3 days for my milk to really start coming in, but that was because I lost a lot of blood while giving birth. Trauma can delay your milk supply.

Medela tells us more about how to increase milk supply here.

Baby not latching properly

Latching on is not an issue for a newborn baby as it is as natural as breathing is to him.

However, he will need a little assistance, especially when he’s overtired or sleepy. He also won’t latch on properly if your nipple is too big, flat, or inverted. There are a lot of reasons why.

Reach out to the experts to learn more about it. You can also read more about how to get a good latch on the Women’s Health website.

Nursing can hurt at times

There, I said it. Everyone claims that nursing doesn’t hurt if done correctly. However, this is something that many mothers go through. Nursing can be a little uncomfortable.

That doesn’t mean you can’t fix it, though. As I have mentioned previously, it takes practice.

You will be on your way to becoming an expert at it before you know it.

✔️PRO TIP: Invest in a great nursing bra! This specific nursing bra can help alleviate the discomfort you experience. I bought this reasonably priced bra when I had my first child, and it is still my go-to bra today. I am not even pregnant.

Breasts are hard and full

It is important to set a breastfeeding schedule. If in any case “life” happens (I’m talking to you, working mom!) and you can’t breastfeed on time, try pumping your milk out and save it.

If you don’t, you’ll be suffering from engorgement and that is not fun at all. Having hard and full breasts can be uncomfortable and painful at times.

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Do you need a breast pump today? Check with your insurance to see if they can cover the cost of it.

PRO TIP: A good place to start is Babylist Health. They have assisted millions of mothers across the country in obtaining breast pumps through insurance. All you have to do is complete a simple form, and they will handle the rest.

Read this article on how milk production really works. It’s from Kelly Mom. Go ahead and check it out.

On that note, while there are moms who suffer from low milk supply, there are also a lot of moms who suffer from the opposite.

Producing too much milk

Take note: A breast that is drained often produces milk faster, thus leading to oversupply.

A newborn baby typically feeds 8–12 times per day. That is approximately every 2-3 hours throughout the day. If you want to breastfeed your newborn, do so on demand.

Breastfeeding USA can explain oversupply to you further.

Most of the time, milk production doesn’t happen immediately.

However, you still have to breastfeed your baby for him to take full advantage of the benefits of colostrum.

Leaky breasts

A leaky breast is typical when you have an abundant milk supply. Don’t worry. This is entirely normal.

You may find it embarrassing at times, but just keep in mind that it is a natural thing.

You gave birth to a human being. That is a miracle on its own.

However, when talking yourself into not being embarrassed doesn’t work, you can always find ways to take care of it.

Great nursing pads are available on the market to help you stay dry. I was a big Lansinoh nursing pad user. They kept my scrubs dry for the duration of my breastfeeding (except on days when I was too tired to remember putting them on).

✔️ Planning to breastfeed? I strongly recommend investing in this step-by-step program that covers everything you need to know about breastfeeding in 13 simple videos. Stacey, a fabulous certified lactation educator, will show you the most productive positions for producing more milk. Arm yourself with the knowledge you need to feel confident about breastfeeding. Don’t hesitate. Sign up right away! 🍼💪

A newborn communicates through crying

Your newborn baby will communicate through crying during his first few weeks, at least until he learns to express himself.

Learn his cues so you can save your sanity. No mother likes to hear her baby cry.

Hunger

“Your newborn [baby] will nurse about 8 to 12 times per day during the first weeks of life.” It will decrease gradually when he gets older.

Needs burped

When your baby gulps down air during feeding, it will cause some digestive discomfort. Imagine being uncomfortable and helpless—that is not fun at all!

A breastfed baby requires less burping than his formula-fed counterpart as he is “often fed in a more upright position and is more in control of the flow of milk.”

Tummy discomfort

There are many factors to watch out for, and one common factor is gas. Lightly massage his tummy to give him comfort.

Colic

“Colic is a bit of a mystery.” Experts still don’t know the reason behind it. All we know is that it is a real thing.

Prepare yourself for this mystery. It usually starts around the second week (or later) and lasts for 6–8 weeks.

Both my kids had colic. My little girl had it worse.

✔️PRO TIP: This fast-acting gripe water may be beneficial for colic. It is safe for newborns. Just be sure to consult your doctor before giving it to your child.

In the video below, Channel Mum demonstrates how to do baby massage correctly to treat your baby’s tummy discomfort.

Diaper needs changed

Sure, you do not have to change your baby’s diaper every time he soils it. Admittedly, this can quickly become expensive.

However, your newborn baby will need his diaper changed soon after he poops. The acid content of the bowel movement can irritate your baby’s skin.

Your baby’s skin is so delicate, and wearing a dirty diaper can be uncomfortable. If you need a guide to changing diapers, here is a video from Pampers.

Diapers are among the most expensive items you will purchase when your child is born. That is why it is always a good idea to look for ways to cut costs.

Check out Amazon’s Subscribe-and-Save store. When you order through that, you can save up to 15%, and they always ship for free. It also has the advantage of requiring no commitment.

Amazon will email you a reminder telling you about the order. You can either skip the deliveries or cancel the subscription at any time.

Related article about saving for a baby: How to be Financially Prepared for a Baby

Sleepiness

Your baby needs sleep. Lots of it! Keep track of his sleeping habits so you know when he needs to be fed.

A newborn baby typically sleeps 16–17 hours per day. So let him. Just don’t forget to wake him up to nurse. If he doesn’t wake up on his own, that is.

Overstimulation

You have to avoid stimulating your newborn baby excessively.

Yes, showering him with hugs and kisses is indeed necessary.

However, your baby will need breaks from all the stimulation. He gets tired pretty quickly. He will need a routine at first to help him get used to everything.

You can gradually introduce him to light activities. Just don’t overdo it.

Sickness

I don’t blame him for crying. It sucks to be sick. You and I both know that! When your newborn baby is sick, he must see the doctor at once!

✔️PRO TIP: You should invest in a high-quality humidifier. This particular humidifier has lasted in our home the longest. It’ll come in handy whenever your house feels dry. Or your baby gets sick. I wish I could assure you that your baby will never get sick, but I don’t want to give you false optimism. It is inevitable. Can we do anything to prevent it? Yes. However, there will always be days when our mothering powers are limited. My husband and I have purchased approximately six humidifiers in our three years of parenthood! Six! That is ridiculous! That would have cost us around $400. And to think we only buy humidifiers with five-star ratings.

✔️Another PRO TIP: Consider investing in a dependable air purifier. You will reap the benefits of it as it eliminates practically 99% of airborne germs. This specific air purifier is the best by far.

A newborn baby sleeps a lot

In the first weeks with a newborn, you will notice how much he sleeps. Don’t be alarmed.

It is recommended that a newborn baby take 16–17 hours of sleep a day, waking up every 2–3 hours to nurse.

A newborn poops after practically every feeding

Newborns tend to poop after almost every feeding, so don’t fret. The following are considered healthy and normal depending on your newborn’s feeding system:

Newborn Baby Poop

Your newborn baby’s poop will be greenish-black, tarry, and sticky in the first few days.

This is called meconium. It is “jam-packed with materials your baby ingested in utero, like skin cells that have been shed, mucus, amniotic fluid, bile, water, and lanugo, which is the fine, soft hair that covers the baby’s body.”

You should notice this changing after around 2–4 days.

Breastfed Baby Poop

When you decide to breastfeed your newborn baby, expect his poop to be yellowish or greenish-brown.

It will have a seedy texture and be watery enough to resemble diarrhea. Breastfed baby poop has a sweet scent to it as well.

Formula-fed Baby Poop

A formula-fed newborn baby will pass fewer and firmer stools. Expect the poop to have a peanut butter-like consistency and appearance when your baby is formula-fed.

Expect a lot of sleepless nights

Losing much-needed sleep is inevitable during the first few weeks with a newborn. It is understandable if you don’t get enough sleep at night.

Your newborn baby is accustomed to living in your tummy and is still getting used to the new environment. He also doesn’t understand the difference between night and day at this point.

Plus, he has to eat!

Related: Baby Bath Time: Essentials and Step-by-step Guide

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Seasoned mothers’ advice that will make your first few weeks with a newborn easier

To be more of a help, I asked several seasoned mothers to share their most valuable tips and tricks to survive the first weeks with a newborn.

You can find absolutely great value here. Here they are in no particular order:

Reach out to friends, schedule lunch dates–try to socialize as much as possible.

~ Sandra of SandraEbejer.Com

Let go of the mom guilt! Having a newborn is a special (and fleeting) season, so don’t feel bad for doing whatever you need to do to survive it (even if that means staying in your PJs all day or letting the breakfast dishes pile up in the sink. We’ve all done it!).

~ Rigel of Holes in your Socks

I don’t think I was very sane with either set of twins but in hindsight, I think precooked frozen meals, splurging on a cleaner for the first couple of weeks (especially when recovering from birth), accepting help from friends and family but on the flip side don’t overdo it on the visitors. Only have people over who are willing to make their own cup of tea & one for you at the same time! The most important thing is that there is no such thing as a perfect mum; you’re doing a great job. If breastfeeding isn’t working out, don’t get down on yourself either.

~ Michelle of The Perfectly Imperfect Mummy

Try to have at least a few minutes to yourself each day. When you finally get the baby down for a nap, have a short rest, a hot cup of tea or coffee, or do whatever you enjoy. Take those few minutes to get your head back together, and then do whatever else you need to get done. It can make a huge difference.

~ Candice of Written in Waikiki

My son is 19 months now but what I had to do was ignore the endless suggestions of how to raise him and go with my mommy intuition.

~ Krystal of The Loveable Queen

It is a must to keep to a schedule- I also have calendar reminders to make sure I’m keeping up with feedings and remembering to feed my toddler on a good schedule as well. Sounds basic to remember food but with two babies under two it can be overwhelming!

~ Taylor of Accomplished Family

Anytime anyone offers help of any kind – take them up on it. You do not have to do this alone. Most people actually want to help, so don’t feel guilty for accepting help or like everyone else have it under control so you should too. It is more important for your baby to have a happy, healthy, calm mama than one who is just trying to stay afloat!

~ Aimee of Mommy Baby Life

As a new mama, it’s important to take care of your mental health once your baby arrives. It can get stressful (or) overwhelming. One thing I do is just ask for help. I’m the kind of person who hates asking for help, especially when it comes to my son, but it’s important that I do that so I can have a few minutes or hours to myself during the week. It’s just enough for me to recharge and continue being the best mama to my son.

~ Melissa of The Dulcet Mama

If at all possible, have someone at home with you. If it can be your husband, that’s great. Or else, (you can ask) your mom or sister. Just someone (you can) share the work with. I had my husband home with me, and between the two of us, it made the first couple of weeks completely manageable. It’s important to try and get out of the house. You can quickly lose track of time and start going crazy if you never leave the house because you have a newborn. My husband, mom, and I made some outings with my son when he was only a couple weeks old. We didn’t let people near him, so I was okay with him leaving the house. However, if you are concerned about your baby catching a bug, then have someone to watch him for an hour or so to allow you to go out and do something. Get a coffee, or run to the store. Anything to leave the house for a bit and remember the outside world exists. Also, understand that your baby will cry and there will be times when you don’t know why he’s crying. That’s okay. You are still a good mom.

~ Lauren of My Favorite Job Title is Mom

I have started taking scheduled me time when my husband comes home, so I can gather my sanity and feel a little refreshed. It has been huge to go somewhere I’m not needed for even 5 minutes and just clear my thoughts. I have learned to live (with) organized chaos. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect. It has taken almost a year to be ok with this.

~ Valerie of A Peach in the Queen City

Do not EVER feel guilty for spending too much time alone with your newborn. The grandparents and extended family can wait. In fact, don’t let anyone ever make you feel guilty for any parenting decision. Your baby – Your rules!

~ Kelsey of Motherhood in May

I make exercise a priority whether it’s a 30-minute walk during those first few weeks or a weight-lifting session in the later months. Exercise is so important for our body, mind, and spirit!

~ Tori of Mom Box

Remember that no stage lasts forever! This can be so hard to do in the challenging moments, but remembering that it is all fleeting and temporary – both the hard moments and the magical ones – helps me to soak in each moment. Also, take time for yourself every day! Whether it’s 15 minutes of fresh air, a hot shower, or quiet time with your journal, every little bit counts. Taking care of yourself is vital as you adjust to this major new life stage. Finally, find some other new mom friends to support you on your journey. Find a local support group or go to a mommy and me class. Being with other women who understand you is so helpful and valuable in letting you know that you are not alone.

~ Ambar of Mama Bird Well Nest

TRY to get some rest and try to take some time to take care of yourself. Get a mani/pedi, have lunch with friends, and go out alone. Just something that is familiar to you and helps remind you of who you were before the baby came.

~ Jo of So Very Jo

Take long showers or bubble baths while listening to (your) favorite music.

~ Veniece of Innate Motherhood

I try to have some “Me” time whether it’s a nice long bath or just going to the store by myself.

~ Mariela of More Than Blessed

One of the best things I did during my pregnancy was planning to have meals and household chores handled by someone else for the first few weeks postpartum. I highly recommend this! You’re so weak postpartum (I could barely walk!). You need to conserve your strength and focus on your recovery and your baby!

~ Jacqueline of Mom Money Map

As a new mom, I’ve learned when to take a few minutes for myself throughout the day to avoid getting overwhelmed. If I’ve been tending to a crying or cranky baby all day and need a moment, I’ve learned it’s okay to step away for a few minutes. As long as the baby is safely in his crib, it’s okay and better for everyone for Mama to catch her breath.

~ Ana of Mommy’s Bundle

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My Final Say about the First Few Weeks with A Newborn

The first weeks with a newborn can be nerve-racking. Taking care of a little human being is daunting. It will take a little stress away if you try to be prepared for it though.

What’s written above are just a few of the things you can experience during the first weeks and a few things that can help.

Read this related article: Fever in Babies and Toddlers: Everything You Need to Know About

Let’s thank the moms who contributed to the First Few Weeks with a Newborn Survival Guide. It won’t be possible without them, guys!

Don’t forget to share it with your friends. This will really help them in more ways than one.

Talk to you soon,

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